March SOL- Day 4:

Today as I sit down to write, I am feeling a bit blah. I don’t know if it is because it’s the 3rd day without the sun, if I’m just run down, or just a combination of both. So, I figured as a way to cheer myself up I’m going to make a POSITIVE list. 10 things in my life that I am extremely grateful for!! Okay.. and go.

  1. My intelligent, curious, funny, sweet boy. Brayden. Becoming parents was NOT an easy task for us, and he is the light of my life, and the best thing we’ve ever done. I am so grateful for him.
  2. My husband, Randy. He’s a guy (No offense men) so clearly there are times when he drives me crazy… but, he is my best friend, my true partner in life, and an amazing dad to B. He makes me laugh every day, he always has my back, and he is just a warm and caring person. I am lucky to have them both.
  3. My health. In September 2014 I was diagnosed with Early stage breast cancer in my right breast. I had a few different routes I could take for treatment, but after going through biopsies, already one lumpectomy, and a VERY strong family history of BC, I chose to go big, and had a double-mastectomy with reconstruction. This to me, was the only real safe guard to keep the cancer from coming back again, and I was told if I do this, chances were very good I wouldn’t need any further treatment or radiation. I went with my gut, and had the surgery. My son at the time was four, I didn’t want to EVER have to deal with this again . My oncologist called me two days after to tell me that while it hadn’t yet been detected. It was ALSO found in the tissue in the left as well. Sigh. Always. always. listen to your gut.
  4. My Nana and Papa. My mom’s parents were my Safe haven growing up. My parents were very young when they had me and I spent a great deal of time with them throughout my childhood. Luckily for me, I have had them in my life well into adulthood. My papa, Joe, passed away May 5, 2013 at 87. My nana, Betty Ann, is still alive and going strong. Not only was I blessed to have them, Brayden also got the chance to meet and know his great-grandparents. He loves his “Two-Nani” as he calls his great-grandmother, and it’s very cool to have four generations of family!
  5. My tribe. I have a very small, tight, group of girlfriends that are truly my “besties”. The five of them have been with me through thick and thin, and vice versa. Two of which I have known pretty much my entire life,  and the other three have come into our lives later and at different times, but they are my people. They know the real me, they get me, and even if we don’t all get together as much as we did when we were younger… when we are together it is like coming home. It’s comfortable, it’s familiar and oh my do we laugh. I am so grateful for my tribe.
  6. Red wine. Yes. I am so, so grateful for good, red wine. I have celiac disease and can’t digest gluten, soy, dairy, eggs and I have other food sensitivities as well. It is not fun. However, wine is all these things “free” and it’s literally velvet in a glass. A good Cabernet or Malbec makes me feel that I am not “missing out” on anything. No I can’t have the bread, or the calamari, the chicken parm or the desert. Yet, having a good glass of red wine, truly is a treat in itself.
  7. My sense of humor. I know this one might be weird but I truly think having a good sense of humor and being able to find the humor in things that happen in our lives is such a great coping skill. It can lighten up an awkward or tense moment, or make a bad situation not seem so dire. It also helps me immensely as an educator. I can get through and connect with my students with humor at times when nothing else might work. There is nothing better than laughter!
  8. My home. I feel that this is one I need to remind myself of! Of course, there are times I feel that I wish we could move to a bigger, newer, better house. Yet, I also need to remember how lucky we are. I actually found this house 8 years ago when Randy and I weren’t even married a year. I fell in love with this small, quaint, cape style home, and we have been through a LOT here. My in-laws live close by and it’s in a great school district. (Which I am so happy about as Brayden started 1st grade this year.) He loves this house and so does my husband, and they would both be happy to stay here forever. We are in the process of doing a few things around here to update and spruce it up and I’m reminding why I fell in love with it in the first place. It’s small and it’s cluttered and there are flaws through out it, but it’s ours. I am grateful for it.
  9. Summer. Let’s be honest, as teachers one of the perks of this job is that we have summers off. Especially as parents. I love EVERYTHING about summer. The sun, the beach, flip-flops, swimming, cookouts, outdoor concerts, and just being outside!  I love our two weeks that we spend on vacation. New Hampshire in June and Cape Cod in August. I love outdoor seating at restaurants, iced coffees from Dunkin Donuts and Starbucks, and having a tan. (Yes, I wear at least 30 for sunscreen) I absolutely love the summer months and can’t wait!
  10. Lastly, I am grateful for books and just wonderful stories. I am so happy that my mom was such an avid reader and that she got me to love books at such a young age. There is nothing better than just getting lost in a great book. (Another reason I love summer is I have SO much more time to read!!!) I love actual BOOKS (paperbacks more than hardcovers) I love the way they smell, feel, and I love to throw one in my bag to bring to the beach, the pool, or just to read outside on the deck. I love books!!! 🙂



6 thoughts on “March SOL- Day 4:

  1. What a fabulously fabulous list! You have inspired me to write one. I am so glad you included a sense of humor, good health, and people who you love dearly that love you right back. My dad always said these three things are all you need to enjoy life. Thanks for sharing!


  2. Thank you for sharing some of your struggle mixed in with your gratefulness list. It’s so important to focus on the positives- and you totally get that. Nice slice. Thanks for speaking openly and honestly and in a reflective way. 🙂

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  3. Love your positive list! It’s fantastic that you turned a blah day into a positive slice! It’s not easy to be positive during rough times, but so important to remember the positives, too! Thank you for sharing!


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